“How can I meet someone new when everywhere I look, I see Lucy’s face? Tell me you don’t see her smile in the crust of this chicken pot pie.”
—Raj, Big Bang Theory
As funny as this may seem, there’s much truth in it.
I remember that I saw my Ex everywhere I went.
In the crowd, on TV, on Billboards.
And every time my heart stopped.
I was convinced that there was some kind of conspiracy going on here.
Until I realized that it was just my mind playing tricks on me.
When you think about someone 24/7, you manifest images of them everywhere.
It’s much like when we welcomed our twins in 2008. Suddenly we saw double strollers everywhere … we’ve never noticed them before.
The point is, you must shift your focus away from your Ex and just going No-Contact isn’t enough.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s a great start, and you are already doing what most breakup survivors avoid out of fear.
But you have to ban them from your mind as well.
I’ve said it a hundred times, and I’m going to say it again:
Continued obsessive over-thinking can harm your emotional wellbeing and will throw you back in your recovery.
You must do something about it.
What helped me back then was setting a specific time-frames when I would try to stop thinking about them. Then reward myself when I made it.
If you want the mothership of all “stop thinking of my ex” techniques, you should try our 6-step-process that we have in our DETOX Course.
It has been most helpful for our members.
Your friend and coach,