Mornings are most difficult.
It’s when you wake up after a good or bad night’s sleep and for a moment, you feel okay.
You feel kind of numb, and everything is kind of a blur … every thought is still far away.
But then suddenly, unexpectedly the pain washes over you like a tsunami.
And in this first moment, it’s worse than ever.
You realize that he or she isn’t there anymore.
You feel terribly alone.
I remember that very well, and one thing that helped me back then is to distract myself immediately.
Here’s what you should do in the mornings (or the time when you feel the pain is worst):
Have something prepared that will occupy your mind as it can only concentrate on one thing at a time … in this case it’s a blessing.
It also helps to have a morning routine.
We are creatures of habit, and if you establish a certain set of actions that you execute every morning in the same exact order and duration, it will help you to keep away negative thoughts.
My morning routine for example consist of the same things every morning: writing, reading, visualization, affirmation and yoga.
I don’t really think about it … I just do it. And it had a tremendous positive impact on my life.
When I developed my DETOX Course I looked for a way to automate this morning routine for my clients as I knew from experience that it’s so hard to get yourself to do anything after a breakup.
Let alone establish a new habit.
So I created a “healing audio tape” to listen to in the mornings and evenings, and it turned out to be one of the most helpful and valuable things for our members in the course.
Your friend and coach,