I want you to ask yourself, what do I really want right now?
Maybe you are thinking, what I really want is to get them back so that things could go back to “normal” as they were before.
But deep down you must know that this is not possible.
The Partner you had just doesn’t exist anymore. The relationship you had is dead.
And that is a dilemma.
I mean it must be something that is tearing you apart. You want something badly which you subconsciously know is not possible.
What can you do?
The solution is to find yourself a brand new goal.
The goal to find a better partner.
One that is a perfect fit for you, your true love, your ONE, your authentic love, or whatever you want to call them.
Wait, you think that was your Ex?
Sorry to say, he or she was most definitely not.
The perfect ONE would’ve stayed with you no matter what.
You would’ve been able to fix things and make it work.
Let me tell you (and I’m speaking out of experience), if you find a partner that is your match in every possible way (yes, those are out there), then the following happens:
Things do work out.
But one prerequisite is that you are ready for it … that you work your “things” out.
So, finding the ONE is a process. It’s a transformation that doesn’t happen overnight.
If you were to bump into them right now, you wouldn’t recognize them, and you wouldn’t be able to make it work.
You first need to get there.
That is why your breakup is a beautiful thing. It prepares you for finding YOUR person by transforming YOU.
It’s like pouring out a full glass of dirty water. Once the glass is empty, you can fill it with clean water.
That’s what a breakup does to you … if you let it.
The transformation that you want – that I had – is preparing yourself to attract and keep Mr/Ms. Right.
I did it back then, and it led me directly to my person. The process was so powerful that she came to me, I attracted her (if you know my story you know that this is true).
So I hope that makes sense to you, and you are prepared to use your chance for change.
I know that it’s scary … I know that it isn’t easy.
But there is no realistic alternative.
I’ll be here for you.
Your friend and coach,