“The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.”
This is one of my favorites quote when it comes to solving complex problems.
What this really means regarding our “how do I finally stop thinking of my Ex” problem:
You cannot solve your relationship problem with the same mindset and thinking that created it.
It’s simply not possible.
And yet we try.
We beg, we plead, we stalk, we tell them “but I love so much” a thousand times. But how can that help?
We are at the same place (even worse) in which the “problem” was created.
What we need to do is shift or mindset … our thinking – approach the whole thing from a different angle.
Surprising things we then discover.
That our Ex wasn’t right for us in the first place for example. That this relationship wasn’t what we really needed.
Or we find out what held us back all these years. What blocked us.
Changing the perspective after the breakup is what we must do.
We do that by following the No-Contact Rule.
Because it is impossible to change the mindset while the Ex is still around. We cannot look at things in a different angle while being right in the middle of it.
Start following the NC-Rule and step outside your situation … and after a while, you will see things in a different light.
You will learn more about yourself and what really happened in the relationship. It will feel like an awakening (I’m not kidding).
I can list countless testimonials of clients how the No-Contact Rule saved their life (some of them are here).
But for now, just trust my experience:
Following the NC Rule is the best thing you can do after your breakup or divorce.
I know you think that you can’t do it. It’s not easy.
But I and the community are here to help you get through this.
If you trust us and want to accept our help you should enroll here:
Your friend and coach,