Imagine you own a beautiful garden.
It’s your whole pride … filled with flowers in all colors, apple trees, even a small bench where you can sit and enjoy everything.
To be able to do that each day, you have to pull out the weeds that grow everywhere regularly.
So you keep doing all the work and love to sit in your garden every day.
But then something happens.
You stop taking care of the garden, and the weeds start to grow everywhere.
Soon they have overrun everything, the beautiful flowers, the trees, even the bench you used to sit on.
The garden you were once so proud of transformed into an ugly backyard jungle.
What does that metaphor mean?
You guessed it …
The garden is your beautiful mind, and the weeds represent negativity.
“You don’t need to plant weeds in a garden, they happen automatically.”
We feel good because we are able to fight off the negativity that keeps showering down on us constantly.
Our defenses are gone after our breakup, the weeds grow out of control.
Why do we have the tendency to over-think everything after our breakup?
The over-thinking process is our minds trying to make intellectual sense of something that seems incomprehensible.
But we try and try.
Why did he say […]?
What did she really mean when […]?
Has he ever really loved me?
This process has to be stopped, and the garden weeded out.
To stop thinking of them and over-processing everything is the root of your pain at the beginning.
That’s why the very first thing that I’ve created was something to help people to stop obsessing over their Ex.
We have a 6-step process to prevent yourself from thinking of them that is based on behavioral therapy. I’ve tweaked it over the years, and it’s become super efficient.
It’s something that you should start doing right away to prevent negative belief systems to take hold.
These are particularly persistent weeds that are hard to pull out. You want to stop these from growing.
It might take some time to get the hang of this, especially if your “garden is already overgrown”. But we’ve done everything we can to make this as easy as possible.
Just follow this 6-step-process each time you start obsessing over your Ex, and you’ll be off to a great start.
Your friend and coach,