What are defining moments?
I talked about crossroads and burning bridges, but what about defining moments?
Let me tell you about three of them in my life.
When I graduated from university, I took the first job that was offered to me, and I hated it.
It paid all the bills, but the huge, heartless corporation sucked the life out of me.
Finally, two years later (unbelievable), I summoned all my courage and applied for another job that was much more fulfilling.
And they hired me.
That was one defining moment in my life because from then on everything was much easier.
Then my (uber-)breakup happened (you’ve heard the story), and after six months of gut-wrenching pain and despair, my distant relative opened up a whole new world for me by showing me the way out.
He asked me “the” question and told me his secret of breakup survival.
That was a defining moment in my life because it put me directly on the path to becoming the person I am today.
After that, I met my wife (I told you the weird story how we have met) and I would never have met her if I hadn’t resolved all the issues I’ve had my whole life.
Our wedding day was a defining moment because that day my lifelong search ended and I finally learned what it means to be in a fulfilling and happy relationship that just works.
After that my twins were born … and it goes on and on.
Point and lesson is that creating a defining moment takes courage.
It’s not easy. We don’t know which way it will go.
But being inactive or fearful won’t ever change anything.
And CHANGE is what you want.
Do you have the courage to start CHANGE? To make your breakup THE defining moment of your life?
Then I’m here to help you, and you know where to find me.
Your friend and coach,